A Troubling New Trend
Trending now on YouTube is a slightly disturbing new topic among many young girls these days. Am I ugly? Type these words into YouTube and you will be shocked by the number of videos that pop up with girls asking the world of YouTube if the they think they are ugly. Why is it that today girls need to hear from strangers whether or not they are ugly? The article posted by yahoo states that “It seems perfectly natural that we value others opinions of us. We want to hear the feedback.” The big question here is are we too obsessed with the opinions of others? Today with social networks like twitter and facebook we can post pictures and statues of our lives showcasing it to our friends or even the public. Today I find that many people try to play up how wonderful their lives are or try to get as much feedback as possible on their pictures to reassure themselves. I think it’s a scary thing to thing about that are youth are begging for attention from strangers on whether or not they thing they are pretty. These girls have taken facebook and twitter to a whole new level by just straight up asking if people online if think they are pretty rather than waiting for facebook likes or retweets which is completely ridiculous either way. We all know how cruel the internet can be, we have heard of the brutal bullying that has in many cases lead to the deaths of many young people. Asking this question is just asking for problems whether it be cruel comments or even bullying in school. Classmates see these videos and pick fun of them in school and in other setting where their peers can easily be a part of the bullying. Again the internet opens up a whole new world of bullying to the young people who post themselves on a public site especially when asking the world for their opinion.
New York based psychiatrist Francisco Gonzales Franco said that on a basic level that these videos are a "a masochistic way to diminish their anxiety." He goes on to say that these girls feel incomplete and they want to confirm their fear that they are ugly. Franco says that if they get their confirmation that they will stop seeking for confirmation.
This sadly is not the only open forum in which girls have asked the question “Am I ugly?” Sites such as formspring allow people to make anonymous replies to a question asked by the user. Again this opens the door for more cyber bulling problems that can lead to serious and even fatal consequences. Cyber bullying is a serious issue among today’s youth and these sites are just opening up a whole new world for them. It is disheartening to see how many your people are so insecure and need the feedback from others. I think that parents need to make a stronger effort to be a part of their child’s life and what is going on in their world.